Hi all, I have fallen for a Egyptian man I found on DateinAsia online dating website. I need some advice.
Firstly I have a heart problem - take pills to make it beat regularly. And I have Borderline Personality Disorder - normally when I tell men these they run a mile, Omar is different, He hasn't run. He calls himself a bad muslim as I gather he isn't rigid with his faith. He watchs you tube videos not his faith has much religious tolerance. He works in a secondary school and is a master of English. The school website calls him distinguished. He always asks to see cleavage but is very adamant no sex before marriage. We plan to meet in July he is flying to me and will stay with my dad. It's only been a week and I've met his nieces and his brothers via webcam and spoken to the little girl nieces. He has not told his mum of me but has said he will have us meet via webcam before he meets me in July. He is rich and divorced, although I have asked why his marriage broke up he still has not told me, He has 3 sons 17, 16 and 14 and 1 daughter 11 they live with him so does his mum - she lives downstairs. He has 3 brothers I've met, 2 sisters I haven't. I have stuck to my guns and told him he isn't gonna see me nude till we're married and I only let him see little bit of cleavage.
Now here is when I start wondering about things, One evening talking to him and his nieces he was getting them to say My uncle will kick me and I am brainless I am stupid I am mindless I am crazy I am insane despite knowing my illness. It wasn't good, I cut off the cam and told him straight it wasn't good or nice and he apologized and asked for cam again and I refused, because I felt to hurt and uncomfortable. Then he got upset because he felt I didn't trust him. And I blurted out my own belief system which normally sends people into your crazy mode because it is entirely unique to me. Next night he was back I let him come to me and felt uncomfortable the whole time and kept feeling frightened and wanting to hide my face from him and his brothers. I was upset and it felt like he was looking at me and talking about and laughing to them even though had no sound and no way of knowing. He said he was telling his brother he got a promotion. I feel stupid and brainless and what he got the relative children to say has affected me greatly.
I asked him why he hasn't told his mum of me yet but he won't tell me. All he will say is to trust him. I want to but I have trust issues. Posting on this forum hoping for some sound advice as I cannot trust my own brain to give me it. He knows I am stony broke 40, 2 kids I can't look after, a mental problem and a heart problem and trust issues.
He's rich distinguished I really have no idea why he wants to marry me and not a local girl or a lady with no problems.
I am separated and still seeking a divorce from new Zealand husband. He comes in July he pays his way and stays with dad in the spare bedroom ( Thailand btw ) Wants to take me to Egypt and marry after staying here with me and meeting. Aside from the other night have had no problems with him. He and I make funny crazy faces over the webcam at each other and show each other favorite singers talk about future life together. I made sure he knows my medical problems early on because I need a man who can accept that I will never be normal and love me as is. He says his family will accept me and love I just feel unsure and conflicted because of my own issues of low self esteem and the fact is I lived as a recluse for a few years and I just don't have much social skills.
His family seem to visit a whole lot. It would be ok if they like me but I am fearful of being rejected. I don't want to marry a man whose family dislike me because it just wont work.
Awaiting your replies and thanks for any advice even if it's not what I want to hear.
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