I'm not sure if everyone is aware of it ExpatExchange.com is not small forum. It covers over 150 different countries and tens of thousand of active members. It's very hard to make guidelines to keep everyone happy. "We hope community members feel comfortable enough to interact openly with other members. " On my part I try to allow conversations to police themselves. Hopefully we have enough mature members to realize when they are going too far. I do have the ability to remove, block or terminate any user account.