What cultural faux pas should I try to avoid making in Philippines?

"1. I had my "what the crap am I doing in this country?!" moment in the middle of a small mall in a rural province, including full-on sobs. That was an interesting moment of my life. *ahem* 2. I have gotten in trouble over food before. I *hate* fish and seafood, and in a country where the people both eat a lot of those foods AND like to feed other people, I know I have caused offense by refusing to try certain dishes. At this point, I claim it's an allergy and people aren't offended when I say no. If you do try something, never, NEVER insult it or insinuate that you don't like it. Even if it is cake with cheese on top. 3. Once, I got so out-of-my-mind frustrated with an employee in a store that I started yelling at him. I very, very rarely ever get to the point of yelling. It's happened maybe twice before this story. But it was a very frustrating situation, and getting that point would have been understood in the US. Here, if you get to that point, you can instantly see that the person you are yelling at has lost all respect for you. You are acting like a child and you've given them permission to completely ignore you at that point. The more frustrated you are, the more polite you need to get if you expect to get anything done. 4. All of that said, the most embarrassing series of events I ever witnessed was when we went away with 3 other American couples for a weekend. Two of the other ladies decided they didn't like the music playing in the seaside restaurant where we were having dinner, so they went over and plugged in an ipod to the sound system and just took it over. The staff didn't know what to do, so they just let them do it, but the quality of the service we received from that moment forth was awful. Later, we went on a boat ride over the ocean and up a river a little ways to see the stars and some fireflies and the whole time, these people were filling the beautiful night with loud insults about the Philippines and jokes about poop like they were 12 year-olds. I don't know what they were thinking. If your behavior would brand you as a self-centered moron in your home country, then the fact that you act that way in a foreign country and think it's ok because you are paying the people around you or you assume they can't understand what you are saying makes you a complete and total ingrate. Don't do those things," wrote a member who made the move to Alabang, Philippines.

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"I find the same answers interesting for the various areas around the Philippines but would like to differ when in Makati and Cebu: First, Filipinos are younger as a country, they enjoy Korean young vibe as well as the younger vibe in Japan (I understand Japan is a much older population, I'm referring to the younger population there). I say this because when it comes to clothing and dress, showing skin is a given like the belly and short shorts/dresses. in those countries by the young, young being less than 45. The Philippines has beauty contests often and this means small outfits as well. We live in Greenbelt Makati and my wife feels real comfortable wearing smaller outfits and she's a dual citizen (we are from the US) and there is never a negative vibe toward us, in fact the women keep complimenting her. My wife is from Gensan and there as well as Iloilo and much of the Philippines I understand it's more conservative but we also see that this younger population is way more eager rather than hesitant to take on more of a western look and they certainly welcome US citizens. In our condo and around Greenbelt we've noticed that other Asians, from other countries, living here as well as foreigners from Europe really don't engage with the people and we've found that simply smiling and being outwardly friendly toward Filipinos they end up going extra out of their way to be helpful and nice to you because you treat them as friends and equals, which they are. Yes, this is a very religious country and respect for all people is why we are now living here rather than the US where the Liberal ideas have ruined society," explained one expat living in Philippines.