Hello,
I am a 22 year old American my mother is from Lebanese heritage and my father Scandinavian/ northern European. I am finishing up my Uni and my boyfriend or now ex was from Kuwait who finished his masters. He graduated, and is now going back home, he may be coming back for an internship in a different city but not for several months. He is 2 years older than me.
We met and he told me upfront he has a strict family and that there would be no future for each other if it ever got to that point because of his very traditional family values, however his mother is the only one in the family who doesnt wear hijab along with his sisters but he says since he is the only son with 3 sisters who will take over his father's business that marriage is something they are most strict on. I understand this. However, as time moved on and we got to know each other more he decided to talk to his parents. He told them that he met someone and wanted to approach me about marriage. His mother cried and his father said do what you want but you will lose me. Therefore, obviously he chose to not proceed or continue with that idea and it was back to us having no future. It was so hard. I tried to not talk to him for 5 weeks and told him I couldn't do it anymore but he reached out to me again and I missed him dearly. However, he has left now and I am so heartbroken. We have talked on the phone and he told me if there was anything he could do to change things he would but there isnt. I don't want to move on and I don't want anyone else but him, but I don't know what to do.
What's your opinion? Do you think there is something more he could do maybe we didnt think of? Should I just give up and move on for good (hes been gone almost 2 weeks) im not ready but mentally I have to prepare myself that ill lose him forever. I wish there was another way or for them to at least meet me.
Thank you and I appreciate the support and feel free to ask any further questions.
Also, I would be willing to convert to Islam, live in Kuwait and inshallah have my parents home, I learned arabic about 75% fluent and read Quran and knowledgable in it. Would want my children to be muslim of course.
I am a 22 year old American my mother is from Lebanese heritage and my father Scandinavian/ northern European. I am finishing up my Uni and my boyfriend or now ex was from Kuwait who finished his masters. He graduated, and is now going back home, he may be coming back for an internship in a different city but not for several months. He is 2 years older than me.
We met and he told me upfront he has a strict family and that there would be no future for each other if it ever got to that point because of his very traditional family values, however his mother is the only one in the family who doesnt wear hijab along with his sisters but he says since he is the only son with 3 sisters who will take over his father's business that marriage is something they are most strict on. I understand this. However, as time moved on and we got to know each other more he decided to talk to his parents. He told them that he met someone and wanted to approach me about marriage. His mother cried and his father said do what you want but you will lose me. Therefore, obviously he chose to not proceed or continue with that idea and it was back to us having no future. It was so hard. I tried to not talk to him for 5 weeks and told him I couldn't do it anymore but he reached out to me again and I missed him dearly. However, he has left now and I am so heartbroken. We have talked on the phone and he told me if there was anything he could do to change things he would but there isnt. I don't want to move on and I don't want anyone else but him, but I don't know what to do.
What's your opinion? Do you think there is something more he could do maybe we didnt think of? Should I just give up and move on for good (hes been gone almost 2 weeks) im not ready but mentally I have to prepare myself that ill lose him forever. I wish there was another way or for them to at least meet me.
Thank you and I appreciate the support and feel free to ask any further questions.
Also, I would be willing to convert to Islam, live in Kuwait and inshallah have my parents home, I learned arabic about 75% fluent and read Quran and knowledgable in it. Would want my children to be muslim of course.
